The Thirteen Steps of Religious Recovery*
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1. We recognize we have been hurt, disappointed, or abused by religion or the religious.
2. Come to believe that The Divine has no religion, is greater than religion, and can heal us from our hurts.
3. Recognize that we are spiritual beings and decide to turn our lives over to “that which is greater than self” referred to in these steps as “The Divine.”
4. Accept that this Higher Power is understood in different ways and by different names in various religions and cultures, and open our lives to hearing the Divine Voice in any way it chooses to communicate to us.
5. Share our struggles with others of like-mindedness trusting that our anonymity will be guarded by all.
6. Take inventory of ourselves to discover any way in which we have hurt, disappointed, or abused anyone by our religious beliefs.
7. Choose to forgive those who hurt us in the name of religion.
8. Seek forgiveness from those we hurt unless doing so would cause further harm.
9. Forgive ourselves for all harm we may have caused, even if it was well-intended.
10. Seek tolerance and, when possible, accept all religious faiths without judgment.
11. Seek through prayer, meditation, and contemplation to improve our relationship with the Divine, praying for clarity of mind, an open heart, and further ways to heal ourselves and our world from the abuses of religion.
12. Having recognized the difference between religion and spirituality, we strive to be true to the Spirit within all of Divine Creation and to be a Light to point the way.
13. We follow the principle that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. The witness of our lives is the only message we need to carry to others.

The Thirteen Stones of Religious Recovery*

1. Assert: I assert that I am responsible for my own spiritual path.
2. Open: I partake of spiritual wisdom and knowledge from a variety of sources and open myself to different insights.
3. Question: I question every experience, all information, personal motives—mine and others—including the ideas presented by The Religious Recovery Program.
4. Discern: It is my responsibility to discern what works for me and what does not, always remembering that what may not resonate with me today may resonate at another time.
5. Connect: Not only will I try to discern through mental activity, but I will also discern by connecting with The Divine through prayer, meditation, and contemplation.
6. Be: Letting go of past hurts, disappointments, and abuses and letting go of future plans and expectations, I resolve to live in the present moment and simply be. Be present; be open; be available; be with Higher Self.
7. Feel: I allow myself to feel. My emotions are part of my being. By allowing myself to feel, I heal and grow.
8. Release: After experiencing all feelings, I release any emotions I deem harmful to my spiritual path.
9. Transform: By changing my thoughts, I transform my life. I choose to change my thoughts concerning past experiences that hold me in pain. I choose to see them from a higher perspective.
10. Harmonize: I look for the harmony in all spiritual belief systems and seek to add my voice to the music of the Earth. I seek peace with myself and with all people.
11. Laugh: I choose laughter as the notes of my song. This temporal life is a journey to be enjoyed. I look for the comedy in situations, and I learn to laugh at my own comedy of errors.
12. Thank: I am grateful. Gratitude helps me bring out the positive in my life and also makes room for The Divine to bring additional positive situations, people, and spiritual experiences into my life. I thank those who have guided me on my path.
13. Love: I learn to deepen my ability to love when I learn to tolerate, accept, embrace, and forgive. I choose to employ these attributes to my spiritual walk, to my personal relationships, and to my world view.

 
*The 13  Steps and Stones may be copied for personal use and for Religious Recovery meetings, but they may not be reproduced in any way for commercial use without permission of Religious Recovery.